If I could look have told myself 10 things when I was a middle-schooler, these are what they would be:
1. Read more. Mom is right. Books contain world’s of their own, a place to escape. Take advantage of your spare time and lose yourself in a novel. Not only will you find new perspectives, but the knowledge gained will be so useful to you once you finally settle on a major.
2. SATs do not help or hinder your college process; don’t stress about them.
3. I’m proud of you. Yes, you messed up some things, but looking back now, I’m proud of what you will accomplish. As a high school senior, you’re going to work two jobs and take 12 college credits, achieving a 4.0. That’s pretty impressive. Know that you can do it, just lean on God.
4. You still don’t like tomatoes. Seriously, stop trying them. You’ll only regret it every time you do. That being said….
5. Try more food. Honestly, you’ll be surprised at what you like. Mushrooms, jalapeños, tuna, buffalo sauce- they are all so delicious!
6. Stop dissing your area. I know you say you loathe Tioga County now, but just you wait. You’ve really got some surprises in store for you. In fact, you’re going to have to eat your “I can’t wait to get out of this area” phrase. You’re going to miss the fall colors, running into friends at Walmart, and even the dirt roads. Appreciate where you’re from.
7. Make your bed. It only takes you 30 seconds, and it would make Mom a whole lot happier. Just do it.
8. Cut Dad some slack. I know you two are different, oh so very different! But, I’m telling you this: things will change. As much as you don’t want to hear this, you’re more alike him than you know. Once you reach college, you’ll realize just how much you cherish his support and companionship. Try and show him some appreciation now too. Everyone is facing a their own minefield of troubles; we all blow up sometimes.
9. Friendships will fade. It’s okay. Try your best to maintain connection with those who really matter, but know that it’s okay when you lose touch with someone who had a big impact on your life. This a part of growing up. However…
10. Don’t be so afraid of getting hurt. It’s going to happen; you really can’t stop it. BUT! That should not stop you from trying to form relationships with other people. Invest your time in others because it’s worth it. Loneliness is one of the worst things you can combat.
11. Finally, be yourself. I know you want to be a good singer, but let’s face it, that will never happen. You’re still going to find a man, and he’s actually going to love singing with you, despite the fact that you can’t carry a tune in the bucket. Stop trying to be someone else because it’s a waste of time. Own who God created you to be.